Tamara Leigh here, back with Friendship Snippet #6. In my last snippet, I addressed Christian friendship. This time—non-Christian friendship.
Though God doesn’t want us to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t bless and be blessed by friends who don’t share our faith. I have a friend I love and admire tremendously. For years, she was in the innermost circle—an “iron” friend. But as my faith grew, her lack of faith caused me to move her to the “good friend” circle since any attempt to talk about my faith resulted in borderline aggressive posits that if there is a God, how could I be so arrogant to believe my God is the true God?
How did this friend’s attitude affect my faith? It made me question it to the point the edges crumbled and the middle began to sag—until I moved her to the “good friend” circle. Today, when she faces tough times, I quietly pray for her and, where possible, offer advice on how to deal with her hurdles. And sometimes I put a toe over the line to see if anything has changed. “Like it or not,” I’ll say, “I’ll pray for you.” This is usually met with silence, a change of topic, or a derogatory comment. However, there was a bit of progress a while back when, in response to my offer of prayer, she said, “I guess it couldn’t hurt.” I long for this friend to be in that innermost circle, but until we meet over Christ, neither of us can be our best for the other.
And there you have it. Next Friendship Snippet—Unhealthy Friendships.