Spousal Abuse
In Charity's Cross, I touch on the subject of spousal abuse. There are some flashback scenes and dream scenes which were quite difficult for me to write. You see, I've never been abused. Honestly, I'm not the type of woman to put up with it. Yet, even as I say that, it sounds rather arrogant. How do I know what I would do and what circumstances would prevail to keep me trapped in a horrible situation? Some women stay for the children's sake, others because they have nowhere else to go, still others because they cling to the hope their husbands will change. Charity had her own reasons, which you'll discover in the book. One thing I learned while researching this topic is that we should never judge a woman for staying. All we can do is extend a hand of friendship, offer them a way out, and most of all, pray. Do you know anyone who's lived with abuse? Thoughts?
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Yes, there are many reasons why a woman would stay in an abusive relationship. None of us know how strong we are until we are put in that situation....whether we are strong enough to leave or ask for help. And yes, if we know someone who is going through it, we can offer support in different ways.
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DeleteIn your book, Charity suffered physical abuse which is horrible. But there are other forms of abuse that can be just as bad. For example, verbal or emotional. I am still recovering from years of verbal abuse from my second husband.
ReplyDeletePreviously in my first marriage, I experienced physical and emotional abuse. I stayed with my first husband for my children's sake and the misconception that Christ would never forgive me if I left. It was my first husband who walked out stating he no longer wanted the responsibility of a family.I thought divorce was the unpardonable sin. I have since learned it isn't.
It took a long time for me to learn to trust someone again. My second husband
knew how to court me and eventually break down the wall I built up. I stayed with him for the children's sake.He left me once the children were grown and he found a former fling.
I agree. You must not judge someone in a abusive relationship harshly. They are not thinking clearly although they think they are. They filter everything through their experiences.
I enjoyed reading Charity's Cross.
Kathy, I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles and heartaches. Breaks my heart to hear how you were treated. I'm so sorry! I agree, we should never judge any woman. Who knows the fears she may have or what she is going through. Thank you for reading Charity's Cross. It must have been difficult for you in parts. God Bless you and may He give you peace and love and joy in your life from now until He comes to bring you home. :-)
DeleteMaryLu, yes some of the parts were difficult to read but I enjoyed the book. In fact, I left a review on Amazon under the name phoneticpanda. I chose this name in honor of my time spent as a first grade teacher. Now my former students are in college.My how fast time goes by
ReplyDeleteMaryLu, yes some of the parts were difficult to read but I enjoyed the book. In fact, I left a review on Amazon under the name phoneticpanda. I chose this name in honor of my time spent as a first grade teacher. Now my former students are in college.My how fast time goes by
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, I've been a victim of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse from an alcoholic ex-husband. I stayed with him for 11 years - for all of the above mentioned reasons. I didn't think I could make it on my own, however, that relationship was the impetus that forced me to turn to God for strength and guidance rather than continue on my path of self-destruction.
ReplyDeleteWith a child still in school, it was very difficult - but I developed the independence and maturity I needed, learned valuable lessons along the way, and began to trust that God always had every area in my life under control and was working all to my good. Before retiring - I had a position working in a center for abused women and children, as well as in a Christian-based children's home for abused and neglected children. I was blessed to have the opportunity to be a positive influence in their lives. God has a purpose for each of the trials He allows us to endure.